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From: BARANSKI@VEAMF1.NL.NUWC.NAVY.MIL
Subject: ZEGG Community; possibly interesting to co-housing
From: <somebody>
OK, time for me to jump in (and, incidentally, make up for my system's stupid
remailing of essentially all news it received to Triples and a few other
lists -- as I said, that won't happen again), I'll talk a bit about my view
of ZEGG. This is all highly personal; please take this with a largish dose of
liberally added IMHOs.
ZEGG is Zentrum fuer experimentelle Gesellschaftsgestaltung (Center for
experimental community structuring, or whatever). They're now located in
Belzig, 80 km south of Berlin, in a large former Stasi area. I've been there
in May 1993 and in Dec 1993, for a week each.
It's not really easy to say who and what ZEGG is. Basically, they're trying
to build a new way to structure a community. A few years ago, a few people
got together for a few years to look into why so many communities were/are
failing and how to prevent that, the result was called "Project Meiga" (the
Meiga part doesn't seem to stand for anything except that it sounds good ;-)
and the ZEGG is an outgrowth of this.
The basic idea is that problems (with yourself, with others, whatever) which
you carry around in your head but don't share with the group build up, people
don't communicate, and eventually the whole structure breaks down because
nobody dares talk about what s/he thinks lest s/he offend anybody. The old
"will she still love me after I tell her I really hate the way she planted
the tulips yesterday" problem, on all levels. So the point is to create ways
and spaces for the community members to feel safe in talking about these
problems -- again, on all levels; there are probably more sensible examples
but at one in the morning I can't think of any -- without being offended or
whatever. In the traditional monogamous relationship, the "accusation" about
the tulips all too often is countered with an accusation about leaving the
toilet seat up, and the really important problems, like why the tulips got
planted that way, don't get talked about.
Thus, it's very important to have a "safe" space where the person with the
problem can say what's on their mind without fear of stepping on anybody's
toes, and without fear of alienating anybody. This really works (with a
minimum of structuring, more about that some other time) just because
everybody knows that they're not there to get their toes stepped on, they're
there to either talk about their own problem or to listen attentively and
non-judgementally to somebody else talking about theirs.
They had a few false starts. Most important, they were trying to fix the
problem of community life via the problem of sexual/emotional freedom,
because this is the area where people have most hangups and insecurities.
Needless to say this didn't quite work and the strong focus on sex and "free
love" alienated many people.
In the last half year or so however they seem to have realized that if you
"simply" build a community where people can meet each other and talk to each
other openly, without fear or insecurity, the sexual freedom / "free love"
stuff just happens by itself if you're so inclined.
At the second time I was there, they had about 150 visitors who split up in
five groups to 30 people each. (The groups had different focus -- one for
newcomers, one for people under 25, ... I'm 27, by the way.) The general
theme was community work, what do we want to do in the next year, what's the
problem WRT our personal/emotional/whatever growth that we want to overcome,
that sort of thing.
You might think that thirty people, thrown randomly together for a few days,
would have a hard time getting anywhere.
Wrong. This "building safe spaces" trick really works. At the end of the
second day we all went to their new sauna (nominally, an about-ten-people
box; we managed to seat 24 without anybody feeling claustrophobic); the next
day we had a rebirthing event. This consisted of almost all thirty piling up
into a happy mess of oily nude people who, when sufficiently slippery all
over, build a long "birth canal", and three others got to be the babies and
worm their way through. Neat. Don't do this with strangers. And, don't get
the wrong impression, this had a lot to do with intimacy and sharing, and was
not at all sexual. OK, OK, it was impossible not to notice that people come
in two genders, but the focus wasn't on feeling each other up (and down and
up and down and...).
Anyway, and somewhat more relevant to Triples, the focus is on communication.
(As if that was a surprise to anybody.) The sex/free love aspect is still
there, of course -- in particular, I noticed the nightly ZEGG dance/disco
event. It's pretty obvious that many people, of both genders, go there
because they want to get laid, and _still_ everybody has genuine fun. The
contrast between a bar or disco in the "normal" world is so great that I'm
not going to "normal" discos anymore. Not when I want to meet new people,
anyway.
In May I met a woman at the ZEGG. Just talked. ;-) I saw her again in
December. Wow. I didn't know you could ever _be_ that close to somebody, much
less in five days...
More next time; it's now 02:00 and I'd rather fall asleep in bed than onto my
keyboard. ;-)
Oh yes, one more thing: Their main way to build a safe space they call
"forum". Everybody sits in a circle and listens, while one person steps into
the middle and says (or acts out, or whatever) what his/her current problem
is -- one of the problems, anyway ;-) -- and (important) where s/he thinks
the problem comes from and/or how it might be solved. Somebody with a bit of
experience with the was the forum works is the moderator and tries to keep
your thoughts focused, steer you into the right direction, whatever. (There
are many ways to do this "correctly".) Everybody else is in a receptive state
of mind and just listens. When you're done, you get applause, and then
somebody else steps in, either with some thought on what you've just said or
done or, if nobody wants to do that, with something unrelated.
This can be rather difficult; especially getting up and stepping into that
middle and having everybody look at you expectantly is _hard_ the first few
times you do it.
And, of course, there are some kinds of problem where a forum isn't the right
way to find a solution. But on the whole, the idea works.
-- Kissing is the most enjoyable way to get somebody to shut up.
Jim.